Life is complicated and multiple things can be true. You do not, and actually should not, view these relationships through a black-and-white lens. To do so discredits your process of healing and simplifies a process that is anything but. You loved these people; in some cases you still do. You may have compassion for their histories and gradually recognize that their behavior is not good for you. This is some of the hardest work of radical acceptance but it also gets you to a place where you realize that radically accepting does not mean that you have lost your empathic recognition of who this
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