It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

by Ramani Durvasula

The traditional therapeutic goal of teaching clients to understand their role and responsibilities in a relationship and to learn to think differently about situations that aren’t working doesn’t consider that the deck is stacked when it comes to managing these situations with a narcissistic person. Short of deluding yourself about the relationship, how differently can you think about someone who is manipulating you and negating your existence as a person? Instead of learning to think differently about the person, it’s time we started learning about what constitutes unacceptable and toxic behavior.

To understand that it is a basic human right to be seen and to have your own and separate identity, needs, wants, and aspirations expressed and recognized.

This is a book for you, the survivors of invalidating relationships with narcissistic people.

A friend who is forever a victim and drones on endlessly about what’s going on in their life with little interest in yours but who has been in your life since you were thirteen.