Gaslighting isn’t a disagreement, nor is it lying. Anyone who has ever tried to show a gaslighter “evidence,” such as text messages or video footage, knows that it doesn’t lead the narcissistic person to take responsibility. Instead, they deflect the focus from the evidence to question your mental fitness, or they keep repeating the distorted narrative. The gaslighter may say to you, “I don’t want to waste my time talking with someone who chooses to spy on me and look at my phone; you are a petty person.” Or they may twist the situation by making it a reality smackdown. “Well, maybe that’s
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