Narcissistic folks are motivated by dominance, status, control, power, and the desire to be special. Affiliation, intimacy, and closeness are not motivating for them. Thus they are always going to need to have the upper hand in any relationship. This means if your relationship motivation is deep emotional connection or intimacy, the two of you are dancing very different steps. Relationships exist largely for the narcissistic person’s benefit and pleasure. They aren’t interested in the give-and-take that a healthy relationship requires, or in the needs of others.
