How To Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

by David Brooks

Being an Illuminator, seeing other people in all their fullness, doesn’t just happen. It’s a craft, a set of skills, a way of life.

awareness of the infinite dignity of each person you meet, is a precondition for seeing people well.

“Am I a person to you? Do you care about me? Am I a priority for you?”

Nothing can be heard in the mind until the situation feels safe and familiar to the body.

A person who has been trained as an interior designer sees a different room than someone who’s been trained as a security specialist.

A person is a point of view.