fidelity. Almost anything can supplant the value of relationship, and often when this occurs, it is not by choice. A caregiver’s mental or physical illness, unresolved trauma or loss, immaturity, and the like can interfere with a child’s sense of security. If this happens to us, then as adults we come to relationships with an underlying insecurity. That can lead us to keep to ourselves and avoid too much contact, instead viewing ourselves as an island in the ocean of humanity. Or it can lead to ambivalence about connecting with others, in which case we become more like a wave.
