Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

by Stan Tatkin

Exercise: Are You an Island? Do you recognize yourself and/or your partner from our discussion thus far? Here are some statements that are typical of an island. See if any ring a bell for you—either for yourself or your partner. “I know how to take care of myself better than anyone else could.” “I’m a do-it-myself kind of person.”