These principles are: Creating a couple bubble allows partners to keep each other safe and secure. Partners can make love and avoid war when the security-seeking parts of the brain are put at ease. Partners relate to one another primarily as anchors (securely attached), islands (insecurely avoidant), or waves (insecurely ambivalent). Partners who are experts on one another know how to please and soothe each other. Partners with busy lives should create and use bedtime and morning rituals, as well as reunion rituals, to stay connected. Partners should serve as the primary go-to people for one
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