The fourth principle in this book is that partners who are experts on one another know how to please and soothe each other. This means becoming familiar with your partner’s primary vulnerabilities and knowing the antidotes that are effective for each. Table 4.2 summarizes some of the typical vulnerabilities for islands and waves we have seen in this chapter and offers suggestions for helping your partner minimize these when they make an appearance. Again, I haven’t included anchors because they tend to be secure and less in need of antidotes. Table 4.2 What You Can Do to Help Your Partner
