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If another person’s love does not make you feel safe enough to open up, if it does not make you see yourself more kindly, if it does not make you want to live more in the ways you’d always intended—it is not for you.
You will sense when you are tired and burnt out, and you will decide to love yourself enough to resist the urge to keep engaging and simply rest.
It is heavy because you are not supposed to carry it this far, for this long. It is heavy because it was never really yours in the first place. It is heavy because humans are not meant to keep holding within them relics of the most painful parts of the past. It’s heavy because it’s carrying an old world into a new one. It’s heavy because it’s asking you to put it down. It’s heavy because some part of you can sense who you would become without it. It’s heavy because you’ve lightened in some way, and so the fragmented parts of you that are too dense to move with you must finally be put to rest.
Not giving up on yourself—not giving into your worst impulses—doesn’t always look like winning an invisible war, but rather, putting your hands up and finally asking yourself, what do I need to change here?
It is easy to know that something must be amended, but harder to actually make the amendment within our own perception first.
Your choices must begin to reflect not just the person you are, but also the one you are becoming.
Listen to the parts of you that are trying to be heard. The parts of you that speak softly, that gently show you where you are not open, where you are still stuck, where you are asking to grow, and who you are asking to love.
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Maturity is realizing that you are not supposed to be for everyone. You are not the center of everyone’s universe. At the same time, you are the creator of your own. You get to decide who gets to be a part of your story, and how much. You get to play with the forces of inspiration that come through you, or you get to let them pass you by. You get to decide what is for you, rather than just trying to fit yourself into the sidelines of a life centered on someone else.
Your inner wisdom isn’t supposed to give you every answer to your entire life, but to show you to the next right step.
Our job is not to get better at predicting, projecting, or becoming attached to uncertain possibilities, but having sincere faith that what we know needs to happen next is the key that eventually unlocks everything we’ve been waiting for, everything we’ve ever wanted to be.
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When you love your life exactly the way it is, it transforms into everything you’ve always wanted it to be.
When you come into full awareness of what you feel, the feeling will gradually release itself.
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Life knows things you don’t. It’s heard conversations you haven’t. It’s realized the truth about some people you have not yet completely come to know. Trust life when it seems like the very things you want most suddenly no longer want you back. You have to believe that life is protecting your heart from any further damage. It is ensuring you will not waste another hour of your precious time on what’s not in your best interest. Life is not turning its back on you, so you must learn to not turn your back on it.
It is okay to want a quiet kind of life. A life that is biggest within the little things, the moments that are not so overt in their impressiveness, but if you really pay attention, open up a space in your chest most people have not yet realized even exists.
102 You are meant to change. You are meant to change your mind. You are meant to change your perception. You are meant to change what you think you want within this world. You are meant to evolve, you are meant to adapt, you are meant to grow. You are meant to shed old layers. You are meant to let go. The body is designed to digest and metabolize and renew itself, cell by cell, and thought by thought.
Trust the process. Realize that we don’t ever really have to let go; we just have to accept what’s already gone.
We don’t have to grieve what we think the world took, but to remember that whatever beauty we grew within our lives is stil...
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whatever we do next, we will grow it there, too. Everything that’s truly meant for you will be waiting for you on the other side, because everything that’s truly meant f...
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103 The truth is that it has to challenge you in order to change you. It has to make you question whether the parameters you live within are truly your limits or simply the edge of what you’ve grown comfortable with. The truth is that it has to stop you in order to redirect you. It has to test you before it can reward you; it has to trust you before it can open the floodgates. The truth is that it has to bring you to your knees before it can lift you back up into an entirely new reality. It has to show you what’s wrong for you before you’ll understand what’s right.
104 You don’t need a life without a fight. You need a life worth fighting for.
Letting your inner guidance lead you to a story far more beautiful than you could write on your own.
You don’t have to know the ending to be perfectly on path.
Peace awaits in the acceptance of the things you were...
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106 It takes strength to witness your own patterns and correct your course. It takes strength to resist what’s become so familiar. Most people will never realize how deeply the compulsion to repeat can run, how entrenched we can become in the paths we’ve walked over and over again, until we cannot see anything beyond them. It takes strength to choose differently, to believe in what you can sense but not yet see. It takes strength to be different, to be humble, and to change. It takes strength to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
107 Resilience isn’t always toughness. Sometimes, it’s the softness to simply let things move through you. Sometimes, it’s the willingness to not act on emotions you would not want more fully expressed, but just to feel them and let them go.
108 It is painful to end your suffering. It is painful to process, to feel, to let go. It is painful to grieve, to be honest, to move on. It is so painful that most people keep themselves in a prolonged state of mild discomfort so as to avoid the acute but temporary sensation of facing their fears. It is painful to end your suffering at first—but then there is peace on the other side. There is a new life waiting to begin.
The very nature of your hurting is actually a sign that something within you is still fighting. Still fighting for peace. Still hoping for something beautiful. Still knowing that there is so much more to you that you have yet to experience. Despite all it has been through, your heart is still asking you to let it be seen, to let it be loved. Something within you cares enough to shed all the layers of all the people you never really wanted to be. See, healing is a hard thing. It requires you to live in a way where you are no longer numbing yourself. To experience a high, you have to also
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119 We don’t move on when we think it’s time. We move on when we slowly allow something a little more interesting, a little more beautiful, a little more compelling, to grab our attention, and move us into a new world of our own creation.
The storm isn’t running out of rain because you’re chasing the clouds. You’re seeking them out because you think you don’t deserve the light of day.
123 What matters is that, in the end, you can tell a story that you’re proud of. That’s the light to hold all of your decisions up to: when you’re old and retelling the stories of your life, what will you say?
125 Not every piece of you is malleable. Not every element of you wants to be fixed, or needs to be. There are some that simply ask to be loved.
Take away all of the words a person has ever spoken to you, and observe what they do. That is how they feel, and that is who they are.
Your choice is how much of them you want in your life.
129 Growing up is realizing it’s not all for you. Not every trend, not every moment, not every person, not every opportunity, not every idea. It’s not all going to fit, it’s not all going to flow, it’s not all going to apply. But it’s also learning to not see this as a negative. It’s learning to become the best version of yourself, not somebody else.
You do not have to ruminate on what you once did because you are not that person anymore. You are different, and so is your life.
132 Please do not allow the heaviness of what holds you to dissuade you from believing in the vision that calls you. Please do not assume that your fear is a finality, a sign of impossibility. Please do not think that just because it is hard, or will take time, or feels far off right now, that you will not one day arrive. One day, everything you fear will never come will be right in front of your eyes.
It takes a lot of courage not to numb yourself out, or distract yourself through your hours and days. It takes a lot of heart to be willing to hurt, to be willing to open up, to be willing to keep trying, no matter how many times you must keep rediscovering your inner flame.
134 May this be the year you learn to believe in yourself. May this be the year you find the strength to change what you cannot accept. May this be the year that you start to see things differently, that you begin to let go. May this be the year you’re guided to the souls who will see you, who will love you as you are. May this be the year you look back upon and realize you have lived an entire lifetime within it, that the person you were at the beginning is not the person you find at the end. May this be the year you do not give up on who you were meant to be.
135 You will laugh again. You will be in the moment again. You will love again. You will find yourself again. You will get into a routine again. You will believe in something bigger than yourself again. You will return because you’re not going backwards, but softening inwards. You are bringing into expression the person who has always lived inside. You have not lost the hope within you, for it is the home that will always be your final destination, your ultimate truth realized.
136 That love you seek? It’s already here. Open the floodgates. Let what’s living inside of you refract around you and come pouring back in.
In the quiet, allow yourself to experience what you once believed you didn’t deserve.
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When it comes to loving other people, they mostly just want to be heard; they ultimately need to feel seen. In the same way that when you witness what it is you feel, it seems to alchemize the feeling, you can offer that to other people when you witness them. They don’t always need you to solve a problem or interject or have a well thought out response. Sometimes, all they really need is someone to sit quietly with them, to listen even when their words are messy and going in circles, unsure of what they’re really trying to say. Sometimes, all anyone really needs is someone who sees.
146 How do you keep going, even when you’re ready to give up? You realize that sometimes, your inability to force yourself to engage with the things you intuitively know your soul has evolved beyond is the greatest sign of growth itself. It means that you really have learned the lessons you needed to, that you really are ready for the next level, the next experience. Your subconscious mind is at work designing an entirely new game for you to play. You’ll have to stop being surprised that the old rules no longer work, or no longer apply. You are not failing because your soul is not letting you
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You will realize that if you did not have the exact experiences you had just as you had them, you would have missed out on the essential lessons, tools, and pieces of wisdom that built you into the person you are today—the person who will keep walking you forward.
155 It is your duty to see the best within yourself, because those that are aware of their own love, who believe in their own selves—they move through life differently. They are kinder, and more whole. They are more forgiving and more accepting and more willing to learn, to empathize, and to find strength. Whatever goodness you believe the world is missing is probably equivalent to a level of love resting dormant within you. Uncover it. Set it free.
