Of course, the challenge of a Rule of Life is that it will force you to clarify what your deepest desires are, to listen to your heart and your God. One of the best ways to do that is, as an Ignatian scholar put it to me, to “pay attention to your jealousy.” He meant that playfully, as in: Pay attention when you see a feature of another person’s life and think, I wish my life was like that.
