Four Thousand Weeks: Time and How to Use It

by Oliver Burkeman

call it a ‘second-order change’, meaning that it’s not an incremental improvement but a change in perspective that reframes everything. When you finally face the truth that you can’t dictate how fast things go, you stop trying to outrun your anxiety, and your anxiety is transformed. Digging in to a challenging work project that can’t be hurried becomes not a trigger for stressful emotions but a bracing act of choice; giving a difficult novel the time it demands becomes a source of relish. ‘You cultivate an appreciation for endurance, hanging in, and putting the next foot forward,’ Brown explains. You give up ‘demanding instant resolution, instant relief from discomfort and pain, and magical fixes’. You breathe a sigh of relief, and as you dive into life as it really is, in clear-eyed awareness of your limitations, you begin to acquire what has become the least fashionable but perhaps most consequential of superpowers: patience.