I don’t want my spouse to be convinced by my earnestness, as if my good intentions could confer any power to change. I want my loved one to turn to God in repentance, if he or she has indeed sinned. I don’t want my words to make a spouse feel “caught” in sin, because I don’t want to create a temptation to be more concerned with fixing a problem than encountering God. Confrontation is not a “gotcha” event.
