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the best way to increase your potential for whatever traits you desire is to spend the majority of your time with people...
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What’s their average health, and bank balance? What’s their average relationship like? As you look at your results, ask yourself, “Is this list okay for me? Is this where I want to go?”
Determine the quality of life you want to have, and then surround yourself with the people who represent and support that vision.
I’m constantly weeding out of my life people who refuse to grow and live positively. Growing and changing your associations is a lifelong process. Some people might say I’m too rigorous about it, but I’d like to be more so.
When you make the tough decision to put up boundaries between you and people who drag you down, realize that they’ll fight you—especially those closest to you. Your decision to live a more positive, goal-oriented life will be a mirror to their own poor choices. You will make them uncomfortable and they will attempt to pull you back down to their level.
Just know that breaking away won’t be easy.
I WILL NOT, however, allow someone else’s actions or attitudes to have a dampening influence on me.
Take a look at your relationships and make sure you’re not spending three hours with a three-minute person.
We’ve just talked about weeding out negative influencers. While you’re doing that, you’ll also want to reach out.
“Who has the type of relationship I want? How can I spend (more) time with that person? Who can I meet who can positively influence me?”
Let their glow rub off on you.
Befriend the person you think is the biggest, baddest, most successful person in your field. What do they read? Where do they go for lunch? How can that association influence you? You can build these expanded associations by joining networking groups, Toastmasters, and similar organizations. Find the charity org...
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Find people who care enough about you to be brutally honest with you. Ask them these questions: “How do I show up to you? What do you think my strengths are? In what areas do you think I can improve? Where do you think I sabotage myself? What’s one thing I can stop doing that would benefit me the most? What’s the one thing I should start doing?”
“Never ask advice of someone with whom you wouldn’t want to trade places.”
I knew that I needed to find an elevated circle of associations in order to go where I wanted to go.
Creating a positive environment to support your success means clearing out all the clutter in your life. Not just the physical clutter that makes it hard for you to work productively and efficiently (although that’s important too!), but also the psychic clutter of whatever around you isn’t working, whatever’s broken, whatever makes you cringe.
Additionally, when you’re creating an environment to support your goals, remember that you get in life what you tolerate.
What you have decided to tolerate is also reflected in the situations and circumstances of your life right now.
Put another way, you will get in life what you accept and expect you are worthy of.
If you tolerate disrespect, you will be disrespected. If you tolerate people being late and making you wait, people will show up late for you. If you tolerate being underpaid and overworked, that will continue for you. If you tolerate your...
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Some people think they’re the victims of other people’s behavior, but in actuality, we have control over how people treat us. Protect your emotional, mental, and physical space so you can live with peace, rather than in the chaos and stress the world will hurl upon you.
In a world where most things don’t meet expectations, you can significantly accelerate your results and stand out from the pack by doing better than expected.
