The Seven Primal Questions: Take Control of the Hidden Forces That Drive You

by Mike Foster

Too many of us live our days out of habit, not intention.

However, when the need is not met or the answer to the question is confusing to the child, the answer registers as a no. This locks the child onto their unique Primal Question that they will continue to ask into adulthood. They will keep asking this question, day after day, looking to have it answered with a yes.

For our purposes, understanding our relationship to our caretakers is only an opportunity to understand the origins of our Primal Question.

Wounded kids have questions, but healthy adults have answers.

In basic terms, we give what we want. This is the core idea around the Primal Gift.

You will place your Primal Question (PQ) over others and then naturally answer it with a yes. This is your relational superpower with people.

Here’s the reality: if nothing changes in your actions, nothing changes. You’ll know more, but you won’t become more.