feel reflective of your worth, but whatever it is, admitting that you’ve got ‘this’ or ‘him’ wrong terrifies you, especially because you’ve stuck around for so long. Admitting that ‘this one’ isn’t going to work either will sting, if you have unresolved hurt from prior relationships. You may even hope he does something so awful, it makes the decision for you, or you pray someone will sweep you and your problems away.