Imagine you are angry at your partner, your heart is pumping fast, fists tight, shoulders are up to your ears, voice shaky and snappy. My friend calls this her vortex, where she doesn’t feel in control of the words coming out of her mouth, but her body takes over and tries to suck the other person down with her. When she is able to take space and calm the physical reaction, it allows her to acknowledge the emotion, put words to her feelings, and navigate conversation with the other party involved. It doesn’t take away the anger, but it brings her brain back in control when her body had
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