Though I would readily return to seeing M most days of the week if it were possible, I’ve come to view the first couple of years of our friendship as a point in history to appreciate rather than long to revive, like treasuring a memory from a vacation without expecting to return to the spot years later and find everything intact. I would never use the term ex to describe M, but I nevertheless recognized my own experience in Barker’s idea to think of exes “as the people we’ve reached the height of intimacy with … Perhaps we can view these people as the most valuable and precious relationships
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