“If we’re not careful, we do to friendship what other people do to romance: we idolize it, and we expect it to fill all our needs.” I often interviewed a pair of friends only to learn that there’s a third friend who is just as important or that the pair is embedded in a group of friends. Amelie emphasized her community because she didn’t want me to imply that she and Joan were all that mattered in each other’s lives, replacing one kind of privileged dyad with another.
