Sadly, it’s a common pattern: If we become unhappy in our relationships, we turn our partners into scapegoats for everything we don’t like, and we blame them for all the unhappiness in our lives, including the unhappiness we carried with us for the many years before we even met them. But we are mistaken to blame our partners for our negative feelings. It’s just the excuse we use because we feel bad, we don’t know why, and we need someone other than ourselves to blame. Until we understand that, we cannot learn to have truly loving and lasting relationships.
