We often have this “I’ll take anyone” or “I’ll do anything” approach to relationships. We underestimate our worth to the point that we feel we’re lucky to have anyone in our lives. As a result, we spend a lot of time and energy trying to maintain relationships with people who are a bad fit. Thinking we’re unlovable: Because we have fewer people to lean on, we can seem “high maintenance.” Those closest to us sometimes get frustrated or need a break from our need for support, which can trigger our rejection sensitivity (see sidebar below) and reinforce the idea that we’re too much, not worth it,
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