“But all this takes too long, and I just want people to do stuff with!” Good news, buddy. You don’t need to make friends in order to have people to hang out with. That was how I thought it worked, too, but no, I had it backward. It’s not friend, then participation. It’s participation, then (maybe) friend. You can’t pick your friends. You can only pick who to do stuff with that you find meaningful. And then see what kind of relationship evolves over time.
