I Didn't Know I Needed This: The New Rules for Flirting, Feeling, and Finding Yourself—An Unfiltered Relationship Manual with Candid Insights, Embrace the Chaos of Modern Dating

by Eli Rallo

So I spent the first thirteen years of my life raised Catholic, and then my brothers and I mutually decided we didn’t feel very connected to Catholicism. So now we celebrate Christmas, and I grapple, daily, with whether or not to believe in God.

oh this is relatable

It’s no one person’s fault that I never learned about these things. We live in a society that views sex heteronormatively, for male completion—not for female completion or pleasure, and not at all for anyone other than heterosexual cisgender individuals.

Some people get almond milk in their coffee, others get oat milk. We all have our own preferences and they are equal in value.

coquettish.

she really does like this word

I didn’t have to wait for his green light, because my green light is just as good.

If your partner is threatened by having a teammate to help center your pleasure, they need a short lesson on the orgasm gap, or maybe to read this chapter.

We now sometimes teach girls how to say no but then we don’t teach boys how to ask for consent, how to respectfully react to a no, how to make someone feel safe.

What a burden it is to hate the color of your own eyes because someone once told you it hurt to see them.

I want to believe that the great person who treats me wonderfully and gives me no cause for concern isn’t going to suddenly turn on me and end things, but after what I’ve been through, it’s tough.