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When parenting short-circuits to behavior we miss the opportunity to help our kids understand that straying behavior displays a straying heart.
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The parenting task is multifaceted. It involves being a kind authority, shepherding your children to understand themselves in God’s world, and keeping the gospel in clear view so your children can internalize the good news and someday live in mutuality with you as people under God.
You may not direct your children for your own agenda or convenience. You must direct your children on God’s behalf for their good.
The purpose for your authority in the lives of your children is not to hold them under your power, but to empower them to be self-controlled people living freely under the authority of God.
children generally do not resist authority that is truly kind and selfless.
Values and spiritual vitality are not simply taught, but caught.
objective is not simply to discuss, but to demonstrate the freshness and vitality of life lived in integrity toward God and your family. Parenting is shepherding the hearts of your children in the ways of God’s wisdom.
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You need to direct not simply the behavior of your children, but the attitudes of their hearts. You need to show them not just the “what” of their sin and failure, but the “why.”
Proverbs 4:23 states it like this: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well-spring of life.”
Great reminder!
They teach that behavior is not the basic issue. The basic issue is always what is going on in the heart.
you must be concerned with the attitudes of heart that drive his behavior.
A change in behavior that does not stem from a change in heart is not commendable; it is condemnable.
