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Values and spiritual vitality are not simply taught, but caught.
The central focus of parenting is the gospel.
You must help them see that God works from the inside out.
still find hope, because grace is powerful.
anyway. For example, the Bible says to do good to those who mistreat you. But
The parent has a marvelous opportunity to help his young adult child pursue with honesty all his questions of faith. The Word of God is robust; Christian faith can withstand close, honest scrutiny. Everyone does not have the obligation to ask every question, but everyone has the obligation to ask every question that he has.
child ask the questions that will expose that attitude of the heart that has resulted in wrong behavior. How did his heart stray to produce this behavior? In what characteristic ways
The person your child becomes is a product of two things. The first is his life experience. The second is how he interacts with that experience.
The question you must ask is this: Are the values of your home based on human tradition and the basic principles of this world or on Christ?
children are responsible for the way they respond to your parenting.
we don’t like being authorities.
Our culture has no notion of intelligent, thinking persons willingly placing themselves under authority.
Freedom is not found in autonomy, it is found in obedience. (Psalm 119:44-45).
As a parent, you have authority because God calls you to be an authority in your child’s life.
but as pleases him.
have chosen him [Abraham], so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just .…”
Abraham does not write his own job description.
Deuteronomy 6 underscores this view of parental responsibility. In verse 2, God says his goal is for the Israelites and their children and grandchildren to fear the Lord by keeping his decrees. The person by whom God’s decrees are passed on is the parent whom God calls to train his children when they sit at home, when they walk by the road, when they lie down, and when they rise up. God has an objective.
Ephesians 6:4 commands you to bring your children up
Understanding this simple principle enables you to think clearly about your task.
You are both under God’s authority.
If you allow unholy anger to muddy the correction process, you are wrong. You need to ask for forgiveness. Your right to discipline your children is tied to what God has called you to do, not to your own agenda.
It is God who is not being obeyed when you are disobeyed.
As a school administrator, I observe that most parents do not understand the appropriateness and necessity of being in charge in their child’s life.
By the time the child is six or eight or ten, he is his own boss.
Children will be good decision makers as they observe faithful parents modeling and instructing wise direction and decision making on their behalf.
Children learn to be wise decision makers by learning from you.
God has called you to a more profound task than being only a care-provider. You shepherd your child on God’s behalf.
Genesis 18
means teaching them that they are sinners by
nature. It includes pointing them to the mercy and grace of God shown in Christ’s life and death for sinners.
know of no realization that will sober and humble the parent like this one.
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19–20)
Any change in behavior that is produced by such anger is not going to move your children toward God.
It moves them away from God. It moves them in the direction of the idolatry of fearing man.
The child learns to receive correction, not because parents are always right, but because God says the rod of correction imparts wisdom, and whoever heeds correction shows prudence (Proverbs 15:5, 29:15).
The child who accepts these truths will learn to accept correction.
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the Lord disciplines those he loves,
“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” Revelation
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It says that while discipline is not pleasant, but painful, it yields a harvest of righteousness and peace.
The discipline of a child is a parent refusing to be a willing party to his child’s death (Proverbs 19:18).
Thus, our correction is not us rescuing our children from the path of danger; it is rather us airing our frustration.
It is punishment. It is ungodly child abuse.
