In later navy days when my ship would be at sea for a fortnight, we found that it took about twenty-four hours for us to recover the reality of each other, even though we would have been thinking constantly of each other. What happened, we decided, was that, apart, we would slightly idealise each other, and to that extent lose the real person. Similarly, if we went out with other people several nights running, we would get a little bit out of touch. We must have days or evenings just to be with each other, playing music, reading poems, and being out-doors. ‘Outdoors alone’

