Another great hack is to consider the cost of what you are asking and decide what is really worth ‘the ask.’ Find those one or two issues that really bug the non-ADHD family member, or make it hard for the ADHD person to function, and then lovingly and supportively ask each other to make that extra effort. Then cut everyone some slack on the rest of it. The issue might be, “I hate it when the dirty dishes don’t make it to the sink/dish pan.” But recognize that someone with ADHD is going to have limited resources to spend on maintenance, so decide on the one or two herculean efforts you will
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