Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD, 3rd Edition: Tips and Tools to Help You Take Charge of Your Life and Get Organized

by Susan C. Pinsky

First things first: when we realize that we are overscheduled (ADHD or not, it happens to everyone!), admit it. Everyone around us probably already knows that we’ve bitten off more than we can chew; better to leave them impressed with our honesty than frustrated by our avoidance. Here are several ways to carry out this conversation: Overcommitted. Just because we can fit it into a day doesn’t mean that we should. It is okay to say, “Technically I am available, but that day is so overcommitted that it wouldn’t be wise to take on another obligation.” On second thought. Do not be subject to the Tyranny of the Promise. It is perfectly acceptable—even mature and responsible—to admit that, in retrospect, we shouldn’t have promised a trip to the ice cream stand after the 8p.m. movie, or to head up the new program before we had completed the program for the past fiscal year. Tell employers, friends, spouses, or even children, “On second thought, I now realize that this plan or schedule is too tight or ambitious. I’m sorry to disappoint, but it’s just not realistic.” How can we make this work? Once we’ve admitted that we are floundering, when appropriate, involve the other person in resolving the issue. Give them some options so they feel empowered. For example, “I can finish A if the deadline is extended; but if you need it imminently, it is more practical to assign it to someone else.” In the home, suggest to one’s spouse, “Perhaps we can set aside a day when you can get me back ...