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Mark Manson
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January 20 - May 28, 2019
You get anxious about confronting somebody in your life. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about being anxious. Oh no! Doubly anxious!
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
Exclusivity of this book
The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your
relationships.
And like the road not taken, it was the fucks not given that made all the difference.
how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values.
Essential point
Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
simplification actually makes us really fucking happy on a consistent basis.
“Don’t hope for a life without problems,” the panda said. “There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”
You will have a growing appreciation for life’s basic experiences: the pleasures of simple friendship, creating something, helping a person in need, reading a good book, laughing with someone you care about.
Everyone should be aware of
“How do I stop suffering?” but “Why am I suffering—for what purpose?”
What are the values that you prioritize above everything else, and that therefore influence your decision-making more than anything else?
all, people who date each other tend to have similar values.
I learned the hard way that if the people in your relationships are selfish and doing hurtful things, it’s likely you are too, you just don’t realize it.
Life lesson <3
Well, I’m always wrong about everything, over and over and over again, and that’s why my life improves.
We shouldn’t seek to find the ultimate “right” answer for ourselves, but rather, we should seek to chip away at the ways that we’re wrong today so that we can be a little less wrong tomorrow.
Our pain often makes us stronger, more resilient, more grounded.
Just as one must suffer physical pain to build stronger bone and muscle, one must suffer emotional pain to develop greater emotional resilience, a stronger sense of self, increased compassion, and a generally happier life.
Awesome
“If you’re stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.”
Commitment gives you freedom because you’re no longer distracted by the unimportant and frivolous. Commitment gives you freedom because it hones your attention and focus, directing them toward what is most efficient at making you healthy and happy. Commitment makes decision-making easier and removes any fear of missing out; knowing that what you already have is good enough, why would you ever stress about chasing more, more, more again? Commitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly important goals and achieve a greater degree of success than you otherwise would.
