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Mark Manson
all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time—is actually fixating on what you lack.
world is totally fucked and that’s all right, because it’s always been that way, and always will
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of.
The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships.
Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering.
You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.
because our values determine the nature of our problems, and the nature of our problems determines the quality of our lives.
Honest self-questioning is difficult. It requires asking yourself simple questions that are uncomfortable to answer.
you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.
Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for
it’s still your responsibility to interpret the meaning of the event and choose a response.
I thought happiness was a destiny and not a choice. I thought love was something that just happened, not something that you worked for.
chances are it’s really just you versus yourself.
If we’re unwilling to fail, then we’re unwilling to succeed.
Entitled people, because they feel as though they deserve to feel great all the time, avoid rejecting anything because doing so might make them or someone else feel bad.
Honesty is a natural human craving. But part of having honesty in our lives is becoming comfortable with saying and hearing the word “no.”
For victims, the hardest thing to do in the world is to hold themselves accountable for their problems. They’ve spent their whole life believing that others are responsible for their fate. That first step of taking responsibility for themselves
