The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

by Mark Manson

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.

The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure.

True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

again. Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.

negative emotions are a call to action.

Positive emotions, on the other hand, are rewards for taking the proper action. When you feel them, life seems simple and there is nothing else to do but enjoy it. Then, like everything else, the positive emotions go away, because more problems inevitably emerge.

bad. Emotions are merely signposts, suggestions

If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.