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Mark Manson
The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more;
it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about
only what is true and immediate a...
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Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual.
“the backwards law”—the idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain.
if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.
There is a subtle art to not giving a fuck.
Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
doesn’t care about adversity in the face of his goals, he doesn’t care about pissing some people off to do what he feels is right or important or noble.
They reserve their fucks for what truly matters.
The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.
Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.
“That’s what you get for giving a fuck when it wasn’t your turn to give a fuck.”
Because once you become comfortable with all the shit that life throws at you (and it will throw a lot of shit, trust me), you become invincible in a sort of low-level spiritual way. After all, the only way to overcome pain is to first learn how to bear it.
