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by
Mark Manson
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships. Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.
Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
No matter where you go, there’s a five-hundred-pound load of shit waiting for you. And that’s perfectly fine. The point isn’t to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.
Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
Happiness is not a solvable equation.
the greatest truths in life are usually the most unpleasant to hear.
Pain is what teaches us what to pay attention to when we’re young or careless.
“The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one.”
“Don’t hope for a life without problems,”
“There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”
True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.
Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.
Remember, pain serves a purpose.
“What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?” Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
Because happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems.
Real, serious, lifelong fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles.
I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love with not the fight but only the victory.
Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.
our struggles determine our successes.
If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.
The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.
Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.
