The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

by Mark Manson

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience. This is a total mind-fuck.

Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships.

Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

Emotions are merely signposts, suggestions that our neurobiology gives us, not commandments.

The problem is that the pervasiveness of technology and mass marketing is screwing up a lot of people’s expectations for themselves.

It takes years of practice and effort to get good at identifying blind spots in ourselves and then expressing the affected emotions appropriately.

Honest self-questioning is difficult. It requires asking yourself simple questions that are uncomfortable to answer. In fact, in my experience, the more uncomfortable the answer, the more likely it is to be true.

people to pass off the responsibility for solving their problems to others. This ability to alleviate responsibility through blame gives people a temporary high and a feeling of moral righteousness.

The more people there are who proclaim themselves victims over tiny infractions, the harder it becomes to see who the real victims actually are. People get addicted to feeling