The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

by Mark Manson

True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.

Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.

“What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?”

the solution lies in the acceptance and active engagement of that negative experience—not the avoidance of it, not the salvation from it.

If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.

Pleasure is the most superficial form of life satisfaction and therefore the easiest to obtain and the easiest to lose.

Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.

The comedian Emo Philips once said, “I used to think the human brain was the most wonderful organ in my body. Then I realized who was telling me this.”

The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.

That’s simply reality: if it feels like it’s you versus the world, chances are it’s really just you versus yourself.