But my worry about having a girl years later was much bigger than any trepidation I felt around the prospects of teenage angst, and even greater than the hurt and anger that still pass between my mother and me, our relationship a cipher for our resentments toward a culture that demands so much of women and gives them so little. Valenti writes, “This is closer to the truth: having a girl means passing this thing on to her, this violence and violations without end.”
