we often griped about how the parents we knew complained about caring for children. We swore to never treat our children this way—like they were such a problem. Once I became a parent myself, though, I saw these complaints as part of a hidden labor struggle—as complaints not about children, but about the daily grind of American parenthood, which is not an inevitable part of raising children and has nothing to do with the love we have for our children. American parenting in particular has been set up to manipulate and abuse women’s bodies and psyches, to put them to work for free and call it
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