misogyny is not simply the hatred of women or even sexist attitudes toward them; rather, it functions like a shock collar, keeping women in line when they break away from patriarchal order or don’t give men what they think they are entitled to. Often this coercive form of control looks simply like the imperative to be “good,” and for women, good means giving. “She will tend to be in trouble when she does not give enough,” Manne writes, “or to the right people, in the right way, or in the right spirit.”
