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by
Miguel Ruiz
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March 7 - March 12, 2022
Shyness is the fear of expressing yourself.
You may believe you don’t know how to dance or how to sing, but this is just repression of the normal human instinct to express love.
Happiness never comes from outside of us.
If you take your happiness and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it.
Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness.
It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.
The truth is I am not what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what I am, you are already hurt, you are mad. Then I lie to you, because I am afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame me, find me guilty, and punish me. And every time you remember, you punish me again and again and again for the same mistake.
If you see your partnership, your romantic relationship, as a team, everything will start to improve.
To master a relationship is all about you.
Love is not about concepts; love is about action. Love in action can only produce happiness. Fear in action can only produce suffering.
The only way to master love is to practice love.
You cannot change other people. You love them the way they are or you don’t. You accept them the way they are or you don’t.
And what is the right woman, the right man? Someone who wants to go in the same direction as you do, someone who is compatible with your views and your values — emotionally, physically, economically, spiritually.
When you inhibit your partner’s freedom, you inhibit your own because you have to be there to see what your partner is doing or not doing.
What makes you happy is love coming out of you. And if you are generous with your love, everyone is going to love you. You are never going to be alone if you are generous. If you are selfish, you are always going to be alone, and there is no one to blame but you. Your generosity will open all the doors, not your selfishness.
Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life. If you can learn to control your own reactions, then you can change your routines, and you can change your life.
Your life is the manifestation of your personal dream.
Your reaction comes from a belief that is deep inside you. The way you react has been repeated thousands of times, and it becomes a routine for you. You are conditioned to be a certain way.
Once we have awareness, we have a choice.
When you love yourself, your price is very high, which means your tolerance for self-abuse is very low.
There are people who really feel self-hatred. They are self-destructive, killing themselves little by little, because they don’t have the courage to kill themselves fast.
Forgiveness is an act of self-love.
When you can touch a wound and it doesn’t hurt, then you know you have truly forgiven. Of course, a scar is going to be there, just as it is on your skin. You will have a memory of what happened, of how you used to be, but once the wound has healed, it won’t hurt you any longer.
because forgiveness is the only way to clean the emotional wounds.
because the truth is that most humans see the world through their emotional wounds, through their emotional poison. They don’t have the awareness that they are living in a dream of hell.
