The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

by Miguel Ruiz

Whatever you do for others, you do for me.”

The Master lives within everyone.

the only way to reach mastery is with practice.

the emotional body is full of wounds, and these wounds are infected with emotional poison. The manifestation of the disease of fear is anger, hate, sadness, envy, and hypocrisy; the result of the disease is all the emotions that make humans suffer.

Humans live in continuous fear of being hurt, and this creates a big drama wherever we go.

“You look ugly. You are wrong. You are stupid.” Opinions have a lot of power over the nonsense behavior of people who live in hell.

That is why we need to hear that we are good, that we are doing well, that we are beautiful.

Emotional poison is created by our reaction to what we consider injustice.

no one in the whole world abuses you more than you abuse yourself.

Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her. But as soon as he made her responsible for his happiness, she broke the star because she could not be responsible for his happiness.

It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.

Finally, if you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of love coming out of you, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec, the Mastery of Love.

You cannot change other people. You love them the way they are or you don’t.

You can love everyone; but to deal with a person on an everyday basis, you will need someone more closely aligned to you. That person doesn’t need to be exactly like you; the two of you only need to be like a key in the lock — a match that works.

All of us can change, and it can be for better.

If you don’t feel like being happy, and you only want to be quiet, it’s nothing personal. It has nothing to do with your partner.

It has nothing to do with your partner; it’s nothing personal.

Relationship is an art.

Communication through respect and love is the whole key to keeping the love alive and never getting bored in your relationship.

It’s about finding your voice and stating your needs. It’s about trusting yourself and trusting your partner.

We are so afraid to love because it isn’t safe to love.

Self-rejection is the main problem. You are never going to be good enough for yourself when the idea of perfection is completely wrong.

You have to focus on the most wonderful relationship you can have: the relationship with yourself.

When we go into a relationship of any kind, it is because we want to share, we want to enjoy, we want to have fun, we don’t want to be bored. If we look for a partner, it is because we want to play, we want to be happy and enjoy what we are.

You can give your love with no conditions; you can be generous with your love because you have a magical kitchen in your heart.

Perhaps you cannot control what is going to happen around you, but you can control your own reactions.

Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life. If you can learn to control your own reactions, then you can change your routines, and you can change your life.

You are responsible for the consequences of whatever you do, think, say, and feel.

Becoming aware is about being responsible for your own life. You are not responsible for what is happening in the world. You are responsible for yourself.

mission you have in life is to make yourself happy, and in order to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, the way you victimize yourself.

We are so blind, we really are, and we pay for that. But if we open our eyes and see life as it is, we can avoid a lot of emotional pain. It doesn’t mean we don’t take a risk. We are alive and we need to take risks, and if we fail, so what? Who cares? It doesn’t matter. We learn and we move on without judgment.

I tell this story to let you know that all of us are hunters, and all of us are prey. Everything that exists is both hunter and prey.

We hunt to fulfill our needs. I have talked about the needs of the body versus the needs of the mind. When the mind believes it is the body, the needs are only illusions, and they cannot be fulfilled.

When you make it your goal to create the perfect relationship between you and your body, you are learning to have a perfect relationship with anyone you are with,

When we fulfill the needs of our mind and our body, our eyes see with love.

You are the force that plays with your mind and uses your body as its favorite toy to play and have fun with. That is the reason you are here: to play and have fun. We are born with the right to be happy, with the right to enjoy life.

If you take responsibility for your own life, for your own actions, then your future is in your hands, and you can live in heaven while the body is alive.

They talk about having your heart completely open and becoming wise.

Let the power of our self-love be so strong that we no longer need to live our life according to other people’s opinions.