The victim triangle consists of three predictable sequences: 1.The Nice Guy gives to others hoping to get something in return. 2.When it doesn’t seem that he is getting as much as he gives or he isn’t getting what he expected, he feels frustrated and resentful. Remember, the Nice Guy is the one keeping score, and he isn’t totally objective. 3.When this frustration and resentment builds up long enough, it spills out in the form of rage attacks, passive-aggressive behavior, pouting, tantrums, withdrawing, shaming, criticizing, blaming, even physical abuse. Once the cycle has been completed, it
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