Recognizing this requires changing the narrative. As Daytner explained to me, she doesn’t tell herself I don’t have time to do X, Y, or Z. She tells herself that she won’t do X, Y, or Z because “it’s not a priority.” Often that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I could tell you that I’m not going to sew my toddler’s Halloween costume because I don’t have time, but that’s not true. I have time. In any given week, I have 168 hours. If someone offered to pay me $100,000 to hand-sew a Halloween costume, you can bet I’d find the time to do it. Since that’s not going to happen, I can acknowledge
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