Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There

by Richard Fenton

“Sure. A willingness to fail means a person will tolerate just enough failure to get what they need from life, and no more. A wantingness, on the other hand, means you’re not just tolerating the no’s in your life, you’re actually beginning to seek them. When you develop a true wantingness to fail, rejection starts being fun!” “Who in their right mind thinks rejection is fun? Rejection is awful!” I argued. “Says who?” he shot back. “Where is it written that rejection has to be awful? Why can’t rejection be only slightly annoying or amusing or, for that matter, exciting and energizing? While we have absolutely no control over the actions of others, we do have total and complete control over how we react. What if we decided to make each no we received and every rejection we encountered something that empowers us? Instead of avoiding rejection, what if we made the decision to seek rejection? Instead of avoiding no or perhaps simply tolerating it, what if we went out of our way to actually go for no!”