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Brené Brown
we cannot give our children what we don’t have. Where we are on our journey of living and loving with our whole hearts is a much stronger indicator of parenting success than anything we can learn from how-to books.
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Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
Practice courage and reach out! We have to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, someone whom we can count on to respond with compassion. We need courage, compassion, and connection. ASAP.
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The heart of compassion is really acceptance. The better we are at accepting ourselves and others, the more compassionate we become.
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If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way—especially shame, fear, and vulnerability.
Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: “Who has earned the right to hear my story?”
if I am full of self-doubt or shame, I can sell myself out and be anybody you need me to be.
“To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself—means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight—and never stop fighting.” “Staying real” is one of the most courageous battles that we’ll ever fight.
A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. — CHRISTOPHER K. GERMER3
The Self-Compassion Scale and other wonderful information are available on Dr. Neff’s Web site: www.self-compassion.org.
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We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.
in order to feel a true sense of belonging, I need to bring the real me to the table
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.
say this out loud: “I’m feeling vulnerable. That’s okay. I’m so grateful for ____________.” Doing this has absolutely increased my capacity for joy.
‘Intuition is direct perception of truth or fact, independent of any reasoning process.’”1
rather than respecting a strong internal instinct, we become fearful and look for assurances from others.
gut says; we haven’t spoken in years.” When we start polling people, it’s often because we don’t trust our own knowing. It feels too shaky and too uncertain.
