Explore the other side of the change. Some changes are chosen and some are not, and each kind of transition has its own difficulties. If you have not chosen your change, there are a dozen reasons to refuse to see its possible benefits—for by seeing such benefits you may undercut your anger with the “adversary” who forced the change on you, or you may realize that the old situation wasn’t all that you thought it was. On the other hand, if you have chosen your change, there are just as many reasons not to want to consider its cost—for that may weaken your resolve or make you aware of the pain
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