“Define your identity,” Denhollander replied. “If you do that, you will be able to stand up against abuses of your theology and speak out against your own community. You will be okay with not having a home, with not fitting in anywhere, because your identity is not tied to anything here.” She thought for a moment. “When you lose sight of your identity, it’s easy to lust after power, and to justify the moral compromises necessary to achieve it.”
