How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

by David Brooks

Being open-hearted is a prerequisite for being a full, kind, and wise human being.

Seeing someone well is a powerfully creative act. No one can fully appreciate their own beauty and strengths unless those things are mirrored back to them in the mind of another.

They shine the brightness of their care on people and make them feel bigger, deeper, respected, lit up.

trust is built when individual differences are appreciated,

“Jump at the sun. We may not land on the sun, but at least we would get off the ground.”

friends also hold up a mirror so we can see ourselves in ways that would not otherwise be accessible.