“The model we choose to use to understand something determines what we find.”
If you choose to pattern match, you seek status, then you judge others with their statuses. If you seek happiness, you judge others by how content they are. If you seek calmness, then your judgement is around stability.
Our own experiences can hardly be altered bc others perceptive, unless that external verdict is something we perceive to be important. Life is a single player game with many many NPCs of different wight of influence and shelf life around you. The most we can do is to add our magnitude of influence into others storyline
