Rather than relying on your partner to give you exactly what you need, try meeting your own needs first. Identify what you’re craving (validation, care, support, etc.) and see if self-compassion can help give it to you. This will help take the pressure off your partner to be a mind reader and react in the exact manner you want. As you learn to rely more on self-compassion to deal with your patterns when they arise, you’ll eventually find that they have less hold over you. Wounds do heal, as long as they are given the care and attention they need.
