Diane’s desire to control really stemmed from fear. Shortly after she got her driver’s license at age sixteen, Diane was driving some friends to the beach, overcorrected on a curve, and flipped the car three times. One of her best friends almost died. She was so freaked out that she wanted to make sure nothing bad would ever happen again. By attempting to control everything in her life, Diane felt safer, as if she could counter the unpredictability of existence. Instead of having compassion for her controlling tendencies, however, her first instinct was either to criticize herself for being so
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